Unfortunately, if your girlfriend has broken up with you and you’re trying to get back together with her, there are a few undeniable facts that you’re going to have to accept.
One of those facts is that your ex girlfriend won’t take you back unless she misses you and wants you back in her life. You can’t do it alone, you need her to miss you like mad and ask for you back.
This means that one of the most important things you can to do win her back is to make her miss you like crazy! If your ex girlfriend starts to miss you, and the relationship you used to have, then you’re on your way to winning back her heart.
Your Ex Already Misses You To Some Extent
If you’ve ever broken up with a girlfriend before, then you’re probably aware of what it feels like to be on the other end of a breakup… even though you were the one that broke up with your ex, you probably still felt lonely and depressed at times, right? You probably missed your ex and had to fight the urge to call her and tell her you wanted her back again?
Well, unless your ex girlfriend has already moved on from you, which is unlikely if you dated for more than a month or two, then she’s feeling the same loneliness and may be fighting the urges to call you and tell you she missed you.
But, even though your ex already misses you to some extent, she doesn’t miss you badly enough to want you back in her life… or at least she’s still fighting that feeling.
So, if you want to really get her back into your life, you have to make her miss you even more. You have to make your ex girlfriend need you and miss you so badly that she can’t resist phoning and tell you she wants you back in her arms.
This is definitely not impossible, and depending on your situation, making your ex girlfriend miss you so much that she can’t resist contacting you (and begging to have you back) may actually be relatively straightforward. But you’ll definitely want to make sure you have a solid plan, and, if possible, a comprehensive guide that covers all possible eventualities during the process of winning her back.
If you move too quickly to try and bring your ex girlfriend’s feelings to the surface in an obvious way, then one of two things will happen: either she’ll know exactly what you’re trying to do, and will strengthen her resolve and her decision to break up with you… or she’ll get irritated by your pestering and simply remove herself even further from you and your old relationship.
Also, keep in mind that even though your ex girlfriend may already miss you quite a lot and be fighting urges to call you and ask to get back together, it’s likely that her friends and family are constantly feeding her support and reminding her of why she broke up with you. Even if they’re wrong, and your ex was a perfect match for you, they’re trying to protect her from further pain down the road.
Build Nostalia by Feeding Her Positive Memories
You want your ex girlfriend to forget all of the negative memories and the reasons she broke up with you in the first place, but retain the positive memories and become nostalgic about the time you spent together. But, as I mentioned above, if you push too hard you’ll simply end up doing more harm than good.
It’s best to let your ex do most of the work, burying the bad memories and reasons she left you … while bringing the positive, happy memories to the surface. Relationship expert Brad Browning calls this the ‘Shovel Technique‘, and it’s one of the powerful lessons in his Ex Factor program designed to break past your ex’s defenses and make her long for your touch again.
Think of the ‘Shovel Technique’ this way: you have a shovel, and you’re using it to dig up the positive memories your ex girlfriend has of you. The dirt you remove from on top of those positive memories is dumped into a large pile, which slowly covers up all of your ex’s negative memories… and even the advice of her friends and family.
To speed up the process of bringing your ex’s positive memories back to the surface, you may want to send her one of these text messages.
Finishing Moves – Winning Your Ex Back For Good
As your ex girlfriend begins to miss you more and more, and starts to become overwhelmed with positive memories of you (including times you shared together and the good aspects of your relationship), she’ll have an extremely difficult time resisting her urge to contact you.
At this point, the ‘Shovel Technique’ needs to be replaced with other strategies to ensure that she does more than just miss you. She needs to miss you like crazy and feel as though the two of you should get back together.
There are several sneaky things you can do at this point to turn her feelings of regret into actual reconciliation and a new beginning between you and your ex girlfriend. For a comprehensive walk-through of how to do this, check out Brad Browning’s free video presentation (he shares some amazing tips in it) or learn about some insanely powerful text messages you can send your ex to make sure she comes running back.