So you want to learn how to get your ex girlfriend back.
Take it from me (a person who’s gotten their fair share of heartbreak). I know exactly what you’re feeling right now.
You’re probably feeling angry, lonely, or maybe even confused, but it doesn’t have to be this way. In fact, relationship studies have shown that almost every broken relationship can be salvaged, but only if you know exactly how to do it.
Pay attention and read very carefully because in this article, I will list the top 5 things you can do to get your ex girlfriend back and keep her around for as long as you want.
So you can stop frantically checking your ex’s Facebook every 15 minutes and worrying if she’s dating other people. You can stop trying to think of things to say to make your ex fall hopelessly in love with you again. You can finally put an end to waking up every morning, staring at your ceiling and wondering, “What can I do to make this person want be with me again?”
Not only is it very possible to get your ex back, but other relationship studies have shown that if done correctly, couples that break up and get back together build a stronger emotional and physical bond with each other.
Before I start laying out some tips on how to get your ex girlfriend back, I want start by telling you what NOT to do…
Don’t Call or Text Your Ex Repeatedly
This might seem like a “no-brainer” for most men, but I’m putting it here because it’s the #1 mistake that guys make when they’re desperate to get their ex back. Calling and texting your ex – for any reason at all, even if just to say hello – is only going to be counter-productive.
That’s correct: every time you contact your ex after breaking up, you could be doing more harm than good. I’ll explain in more depth below, but for now you just need to remember that contacting your ex girlfriend is an absolute no-no for the first few weeks.
Don’t Send Flowers, Chocolates, Love Notes, etc.
Similar to the last point I made about not contacting your ex girlfriend, you also need to resist the urge to be extra nice and send gifts, flowers, etc. While this may win over a very small minority of women, most of the time this will just confirm all of your ex’s reasons to break up with you.
This is a tough one for some guys to do… after all, your ex girlfriend may have been a sucker for flowers and gifts when you were together, so why wouldn’t it work now? Well, the main reason is because the situation is different now… you want your ex to think that you’re OK without her. Sending flowers and love notes definitely doesn’t convey that image, and is usually a turn-off for your ex.
Don’t Make Any Obvious Attempts to Incite Jealousy
As I’ll explain in a second, a little bit of jealousy can be helpful in your quest to get your ex girlfriend back. But if you make it at all obvious that you’re trying to get her back, it will have the opposite effect!
So, what are some of the things you might do that would be too obvious? Well, for starters, showing up at your ex girlfriend’s favorite restaurant with a new girl when you know she’ll be there is not very subtle. So is making deliberate attempts to post pictures of you and other girls on Facebook (although if you can do this subtly, it can sometimes work). And talking to your ex’s friends just so you can tell them about your new girlfriend (knowing your ex will end up hearing this gossip) is also too obvious.
Like I said, a little bit of jealousy is a good thing, but you can’t be too obvious about it or your ex will simply get irritated and your attempts at stimulating jealousy will have the opposite effect.
There are several ways to make your ex girlfriend a little bit jealous without the risk of going overboard and having things backfire, but they’re a bit too in-depth for me to discuss here. If you’re interesting in using these kind of advanced psychological techniques, I recommend you watch this free video by relationship expert Brad Browning. In it, he’ll reveal a few sneaky tricks that will help create the right amount of jealousy.
Now, with those few items out of the way, let’s dive in to a few of the things you can be doing to help get your ex back….
Tip 1 – Stop Telling Her You Want Her Back
By saying how much you want your ex back, you’re actually making her less attracted to you. Stop saying how much you love this person. Stop telling your ex how much you miss being with her.
You need accept that fact that right now, your old relationship has ended and that if you want to get your ex back, you need to start fresh build a new relationship that was better than the last.
In order to start fresh and rekindle that “fire” you two had when you first met, you must start using tip 2 right now!
Tip 2 – Isolate Yourself From Your Ex Girlfriend
This tip probably seems a little counter-intuitive, but trusts me when I say that it works like a charm. This method is psychologically proven to increase your chances of getting back with your ex. The reason for this is simple – people want what they can’t have. By not communicating with your ex girlfriend, you create for yourself an aura of independence and confidence. These two traits are very attractive.
First, send her a simple text message or email saying that you thought the breakup was a good idea and that it is best if you two spent some time apart.
I know not being able to talk with your ex can be very difficult right now. You probably want to talk to this person more than anything, right?
Even the littlest things can remind you of your ex, which will only cause you to feel that burning desire to pick up your phone and start communicating with your ex girlfriend. Fight this urge at all costs. Don’t be impatient. If a friend claims that you’ll be able to win your ex back by saying or doing something right now, they’re wrong. There is no other way around the Isolation Period.
Sometimes, not communicating with your ex works so well that she’ll realize how much she misses you. Don’t be surprised if she starts calling or messaging you after a week of no contact! (Researchers at the Univ. of Washington have found that the vast majority of relationships can be repaired, so if you play your cards correctly you can expect her to eventually get in touch again).
So now that you aren’t talking with your ex, what can you actively do right now that will increase your chances of “re-attracting” this person when you two finally do talk? Read on!
Tip 3 – Reinvent Yourself
Right now, you’re probably feeling and acting quite differently than what you’re typically accustomed to. You might even be giving off some negative energy to the people around you. I can tell you confidently that if you want your ex back, you need to put an end to the negative image you’re giving off.
That means you need to stop pining and start giving off the impression that you’re happy and confident being single again (there are many things you can do after a breakup to help with this). If your ex sees that you’re depressed and emotional over the break up, this will lower your sexual value in their eyes and he or she will be much less likely to fall in love with you ever again.
If you find reinventing yourself difficult to accomplish, consider picking up a new hobby, going out with friends, or going to the gym to let off some steam. In fact, exercise releases certain hormones in your brain that increases your mood and happiness… so go out and be active!
By showing off your “new self,” you will build the sexual value that your ex will crave. Speaking of sexual value…
Tip 4 – Show The World That You’re A Sexual Being
I don’t mean that you should start sleeping around with random strangers (that definitely won’t help you get your ex back), but start going out on dates with other people.
When your ex sees that you’re a highly sought-after partner, they will feel an uncontrollable amount of attraction for you. Human beings are subconsciously hard-wired to feel attraction for other highly sought after men and women.
You need to amp up your sex appeal and force your ex to feel like they made the mistake of letting you walk away. Only then will your ex girlfriend be banging on your door, begging you to take her back.
Speaking of making her beg…
Tip 5 – Have A Solid Plan To Get Her Back For Good
After your isolation period of no contact, which typically lasts about 29 days (during the peak of your ex’s loneliness), you will then be able to contact your ex. However, you simply can’t text or call your ex and ask her to hang out. You have to look non-threatening. Meaning, you can’t give them the slightest indication that you actually want to get back together with her.
Each situation is different, and you have to tailor your plan to exactly what is needed. This is where expert relationship advice can help big time – and this is where your secret weapon lies!
Click here to watch this free video presentation by world-renowned relationship expert, Brad Browning. In this video, Brad outlines exactly what’s going on in your ex’s head, and how you can successfully get her back into your arms… for good.
It doesn’t matter why you two broke up. It doesn’t even matter if you want to start a brand new relationship with your ex or just want a night of steamy love… Brad’s techniques have helped thousands of heartbroken men and women retrieve their lost love, and your situation is no different.
If you follow Brad’s advice and use his sneaky psychological techniques, your ex will be the one pining over you and not the other way around. You’ll finally be able to experience that spark all over again – that intense happiness that just doesn’t go away. And, best of all, if you do watch this free video and get your ex back, Brad will teach you exactly how to keep your relationship going, so that your partner will never, ever think about abandoning you ever again.
Can I absolutely guarantee that Brad Browning’s advice will work for you? Of course not. Nobody can make that guarantee (and if they do, they’re lying to you), but the video isn’t that long so you have nothing to lose. Check out this video right now before it’s taken down.
Best of luck on your journey to get back together with your ex girlfriend, I really hope it works out for you!