Divorce has become all too common in the modern world, and that’s a shame, because many of these relationships are probably salvageable. In fact, some estimates suggest that well over half of all marriages end over matters that could’ve been resolved.
So, if you’re separated and/or facing divorce with your ex wife, there’s still a very good chance you can mend relations, stop your divorce, and get your ex wife back once and for all. So, let’s talk about how to stop a divorce..
Marriage Is A Two Way Street
While this goes without saying, it’s often overlooked by men trying to work things out with their ex wife: you can’t do this alone. In order for things to work out, both in the long term and the short term, your ex wife needs to want to get back together with you. That means you need to focus your efforts on making yourself desirable and making your wife realize that you’re the man for her.
So, once you’ve accepted that your wife will need to be on board with the idea of stopping your divorce in its tracks and rebuilding a relationship together, you can focus on how to make that reality.
Note: before you go any further, consider checking out this excellent article on saving your marriage by my colleague and fellow Marriage Guru Dr Janet Wilson.
No Begging or Pleading
This is very important: while you want to show your wife that you’re willing to do what it takes to fix the problems plaguing your marriage and that you’re committed to repairing any damage you’ve done, you don’t want to beg, plead, or grovel.
Even though you may have made mistakes that contributed to the underlying causes for your divorce, you’ve probably already apologized and tried to make amends for those things. Now is not the time to continue to apologize and beg your ex for forgiveness. Those kinds of things are important to say, but not what you want to dwell on.
Begging and pleading with your ex wife to stop the divorce and get back together is essentially saying,I’m giving you all the power and I’m at your mercy. That’s not going to make you look like desirable, and that certainly isn’t the kind of thing a strong-willed alpha male would do.
Stop Your Divorce by Playing It Cool
Speaking of “alpha male” characteristics, there’s another thing you should be doing once you’ve expressed to your ex wife that you’re willing to work things out with her: keeping it cool and flying under the radar.
At this point, since your ex wife knows you’re willing to work things out together, it’s time to put your emotions aside and act as though you’re emotionally unaffected by the divorce. You want your ex wife to think that, although this will be a difficult time for you, you’re confident that you can get through it.
You may also benefit by doing a few subtle things that might make your wife a bit jealous. Don’t do anything obvious, and don’t make your attempts to incite jealousy at all obvious to your ex wife… just go out on the town with friends and have a good time. This gives off the impression of a confident, desirable guy with lots of other romantic options on the back burner.
Have A Plan Moving Forward
The process of stopping your divorce and winning back your ex wife is far too complicated to describe in a single article, and I won’t even attempt it. There’s simply too many “what if” scenarios you’ll likely face throughout the divorce and the months before and after.
I recommend seeking some expert guidance to walk you through the process of reversing your divorce. There are plenty of excellent guides to getting your ex back available online, with my personal recommendation being The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning.
I’ve also completed reviews of many other top programs in the review section of this website, so check that out for more options. Whatever you decide, make sure you have a plan moving forward, and you’ll be well on your way to stopping the divorce and getting your ex wife back in your arms for good.